 Posted 10/16/2009 9:51:41 PM
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| When I 1st became a mom I had Post-Partum Depression. 8 months of it and it was hell. I hated getting up each day and felt that I was in prison. I felt so much pressure to be like all other mothers (who seemingly were happy) that I did not get help until 8 months later. Don't be like me. Get help. Give yourself some slack. Most of all put yourself 1st to take care of #2 and #3 and whomever else comes along. If you need to learn how to do this or just want to chat with others who are real about motherhood... go to slackermom.ca
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Posted 3/28/2010 7:10:02 PM
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| I would say put baby first... They can be a pain in the butt, but would you really trade them for your freedom back? Glad you got help and all is well. Good Luck 
www.BabyMusic.ca
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Posted 7/14/2010 9:35:16 PM
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| I hear ya. My daughter is 10 months, and I still have days when I feel like I'm being held hostage. It was a complete change in priority, especially as I was 41 when I had her, and had been single until just before she came along. I felt that I was being selfish when I wanted to eat breakfast even though the baby was crying for some reason. But then I woke up and realized that I couldn't function well enough to give my baby everything she needed until I met my own basic needs (especially because I was nursing- if you're stressed or malnourished, your milk can dry up). So be sure you eat. Get some fresh air every day. You need to have some outside contact. Only when you look after yourself properly are you able to able to look after your baby properly. And that is not being selfish.
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Posted 7/15/2010 11:34:57 PM
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Every woman is different, has different needs, strengths and weaknesses and these become highlighted when we become a mother. For me I strove to give it my all. I was comfortable to do that until a day came where I realized I was angry and resentful. The solution was obvious - stop giving so much but I was unable to stop the circle of over-giving and feel angry about it.
I've since realized this is a deep pattern for me. One that I am aware of and sometimes caught of guard by my seething anger. It doesn't just happen with my kid, it happens in many aspects of my life. It's something I'm working on to bring into a healthy balance for myself and I must say, I'm doing a pretty good job.
All this to say that we all mother for who we are and I think it can be a great opportunity to notice what we do, question why we do it and then remind ourselves of the delicate balance between our own needs and the needs of others. Sometimes it requires sacrifice and sometimes "selfishness". Listening to what feels good seems to work for me.
Holistic Childbirth Preparation
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