I'm a divorced single mother of 4 yr old daughter. My ex and I have been separated and divorced for 3 yrs this June. We have a joint custody of our daughter. He sees her every other weekend and 1-2 nights every week. She goes to school close to where I live. She's in JK. Currently I'm living in Scarborough (renting in appt)) and he lives in Newmarket.  When he sees her during weekdays, he stays at his parents house in Finch so he can drop our daughter to school. But during weekends, he takes her to his house in Nmkt.

Now, I am buying a house in Pickering and moving forward. I am so excited because my daughter and I can start a new life. New surroundings, new room for her (right now she sleeps with me bec we only have 2 bdrm and my mother is staying with us too). When I told her that we are buying a house, she was so happy and excited!!! She started planning on what color her room's going to be, is it going to be princess or barbie? In short, we are all excited.

Here's the thing. When I told her dad way back that I'm planning on moving East, he said nothing but asked my "why pickering?" I said, because that's where I can afford a new house. I can never afford anything in the city. Basically, I gave him a heads up. A few weeks ago, I reminded him again about it and told him that I am moving to Pickering. He told "NO". We do have an agreement (legal) that I can move freely within GTA with his consent and Pickering is still in GTA boundaries. The only time I need his written consent is when I have to move outside GTA. He said that he will not allow our daughter to go with me or move to Pickering. and I should check with my lawyer...blah..blah.. He said it's too far for him to drive and he wouldn't be able to take her to school. I told him that she will go to school in Pickering. It doesn't make any sense if I will keep her in school in Toronto if we live in Pickering. I won't allow her to wake up too early in the morning to beat the traffic. That's my dilema right now. I've checked it with my lawyer and he said that what I'm doing is fine and it's within the boundaries. Everybody is entitle to move forward and basically have their own lives. My ex is still controlling me (one of the reasons why our marriage broke). He even told me that he doesn't approve of the location where I live now. It's funny bec I am not even asking his permission.

Question; Am i doing anything wrong? I just want to move forward and start a new life in our new home. I know that he's going to make it difficult for me. Do you guys have any suggestions about what's the best visiting days might be good for him? She will be going to school in Pickering. She will still see her every other weekend.

any suggestions or ideas or comments is welcome.
Thank you for listening.

~Issamama

Thanks again !!! Have a great day !