 Posted 9/27/2006 4:58:58 PM
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It used to be cute when she ran away-not anymore-I'm pregnant and can't keep up with her- when she needs her teeth brushed, or needs to get dressed she just turns and walks away, when I ask again, or try to pick her up-there is plenty of resistance, and in the end-she's crying, and I am trying to force a toothbrush in.
How do you handle the resistance? How do you cope? I don't want her to have negative reinforcement.
thanks,
angela
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Posted 9/29/2006 1:29:37 AM
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| We actually started the 1-2-3 counting thing when our daughter was approaching two years old. If we got to three and she still wasn't complying, she got a time out or a spanking (depending on the seriousness of the offense). You may choose different consequences, but if she knows that you mean it, she'll probably comply once she gets the idea. My daughter often makes a game out of it now, and doesn't comply until we get to three, but at least we've got her attention. Another thing I did when she was younger than that was say, "Closer, closer, closer" as she took one step at a time until she was right there in front of me. I'm not sure how we started that little game, but it worked well for quite a while. Another thing I do is make up songs that go with these duties:
"This is the way we brush our teeth, brush our teeth, brush our teeth; This is the way we brush our teeth, so we keep them clean."
"A scrub-scrub-scrub, we gotta scrub, scrub, scrub; These hands we scrub were playing in the mud, we gotta scrub, scrub, scrub" (Tune from the Backyardigans) Of course, then when she does cooperate, praise her, tell her that you're proud of her for being such a big girl. Kids thrive on that kind of thing. I know it's hard to chase them when you are pregnant (been there!), especially if you have a home where they can run in circles and avoid you. You may need to find a way to make it a game to comply. She's trying to have fun...so make it fun for her. It will be easier on both of you. Good luck!
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Posted 2/24/2007 9:53:28 PM
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| We also make it into a song. It helps most of the time. Not always, then we threaten. Either a spank, timeout, once even with the spoon. I gave him a little wack on the bum and he now smartens up. I also don't tell him what we're going to do until we get there and I have hold of him so he can't escape. Like brushing his teeth. I can at least shut the doors in the bathroom so he can't run away as quickly. I also tell him what happens to his teeth if he doesn't brush them, the dentist will take them all out and throw them in the garbage. I've said it so often that he tells me what will happen. Try changing the toothpaste every so often or give them a choice if you think it will help. To get them dressed, make it a race with an announcer (you). Kids seem to like fast faster fastest. Tell her she can't do something she is wanting to like go outside or watch her show that is comming on and will be over if she doesn't do it now. I'm in the same spot as you and get very frustrated easily lately. I actually started to become a yelling mom and I didn't like it. So my DH started stepping in more often which has helped me chill out a bit more. And I'm trying to be more concious of what I'm saying and the way I'm saying it.
Mom of Cole (age 4) and Carter (age 2) www.scotiapuzzles.com
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Posted 2/25/2007 12:12:10 PM
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| I'm not big on the 1-2-3 thing as kids soon learn that they have 1 and 2 before there are any consequences and some kids will take advantage of that. To get my son to brush his teeth, I let him start the brushing himself first and then lather on the praise. Then I get a turn and we make a game out of it. I'll say "I see a raisan" or whatever else he just recently ate and then we make a game of getting the raisans out. I'll also get him to make his best lion roar so he'll open up wide enough to get to the back teeth. I also went through a few toothbrushes until I found one that he really liked (I thought he would like the vibrating one with Dora but he didn't like the noise). He also has special Thomas The Train toothpaste. It was a struggle at first but he now enjoys brushing his teeth so much that he'll sometimes remind me that it is time to brush his teeth. Just keep it fun and make him think he is in control of the situation and that you're not forcing it on him. Good luck!
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Posted 10/11/2008 6:17:14 AM
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You don't need to force her springbaby. U have to play with her for brushing or bathing. U have to tell har that if she brush properlly u give some sweets to har etc. U have to become a baby with baby.
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Posted 10/12/2008 2:10:47 PM
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| Cool now I know I am not the only one that has a 3 year old that runs away when you try to get her ready for stuff and here everyone said we will like it when she can walk I dont know about that now since she can walk that mean more time chasing her down to get stuff done.
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Posted 10/14/2008 7:12:42 PM
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We just went through with this with Braxton.
Our solution was taking him to the store and letting him a pick out a toothbrush and toothpaste that he wanted.
He loves brushing his teeth now. And I still think it's because he thinks he got his way.
Also making it fun helps!!
Trying singing, and telling her she needs to brush away the sugar bugs, things like that worked for us!
Good luck and let us know how it goes!
Jodi
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Posted 12/3/2008 9:22:25 PM
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An explanation on how teeth get black and rotten if not washed might work too  The joy of being a meanie as a parent
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