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We want to know... where do you get together?

susanps managing editor — Tue, 15 Jan 2008 10:38:23 GMT

When you and your friends want to meet to discuss parenting issues, where do you usually go?

Be as specific as you can!

Thank you,
Susan

Susan Pennell
Managing Editor
ParentsCanada

Help I need to know!

cgou — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 19:41:32 GMT

I have recently had a baby girl. I was brestfeeding up until 3 weeks ago. I have not had a period yet and was wondering if this was a natural thing.

Yeah, my friend is going to get pregnant!

violet1amythest — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 15:04:15 GMT

I'm so excited! My friend is finally ready to have a baby and are just waiting to pregnant now. They got married a month after we did and I have a 4 and 2 yr old already and she just didn't know. But she told me a few weeks ago she is ready and really excited about being a mom now. I'm so happy for them as I know that her DH has been waiting a long time for this to happen.

Pregnant with second baby and mat leave almost up

HotMami — Sun, 09 Sep 2007 01:06:48 GMT

I am 3 months pregnant, recently moved to a new town and have an 8 month old baby. My maternity leave ends in November, My husband works but i would like to do something to bring some money in when my mat leave ends. I cant find child care and even if i did i would be able to work long because the new baby is due in march and i dont think many people would hire me . I would like to work from home. I was wondering if anyone has been in this situation and what they did or if anyone has suggestions?

iam new here

suoermom2006 — Fri, 24 Nov 2006 23:11:17 GMT

Iam wondering if there anyone from new brunswick in here?

Sweating at night

bcwillow — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 11:42:53 GMT

I am curious if anyone else has this. I go to bed feeling fine and a bit cold. When it's time to feed my daughter at 12 or 3 or whenever, I am soaked in sweat. Is this part of the recovery process of giving birth? Is my body still getting used to not having her as my heater or whatever?

Suggestions?

chocolateicingcg — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 00:40:12 GMT

On what to do, when your own mother is causing a fair majority of the grief and high stress levels you experience on a regular basis? I know, for a fact, this isn't good for the baby but she just refuses to let up! Her mother also lives with us, so it's three generations, until we sell our house, which is currently up for sale. It's mainly my grandmother who wants to sell, even though I showed her the page, in "Here Through Maternity", where it says you shouldn't make any major changes(such as moving) while pregnant... She, basically, just laughed in my face and told me I didn't know what the Hell I was talking about!

Plus, I don't drive and, can't make sense of bus schedules, due to dyslexia, but still my mother refuses to take me to buy maternity clothes. She also won't go to sleep at a half decent hour(we don't usually get to bed any sooner than 12am), even though she knows she has to get up for work at 5am, which leaves me functioning on five hours of sleep! I've tried to get in with a counselor, but they're either full up and don't take walk-ins or they haven't called me back... Somebody help, before I kill myself, 'cause this certainly isn't living.

newly single mom to be and worried

rgs_baby — Thu, 06 Sep 2007 13:31:43 GMT

Just need a little venting space and support from people who understand....

I'm 26 and was on my way to making a cute little family of three. I was with the man who was the love of my life - granted it hasn't been the easiest of relationships. we've been on and off again for the past 6 years - with the HUGE off again - but this time its for good.

I had to choose between the man i no longer recognized but at a time not to long ago loved so deeply, or the little wee one in my tummy giving me kicks of love each day. I choose my baby! and i know its the right choice. but it doesn't make the hurt go away. I lost my love to a life of drugs and just all around badness. i could never raise a child in an environment like that - EVER!!!! he told me one day he was a full blown junkie. that was the day i left and i try not to look back.

it silly to say that i still worry about him. but i can't focus too much on him. i have a beautiful little one in me to think about and to make sure i give him/her the best life possible. I'm more then thrilled to be a mom! and I'm looking forward to the joys and the struggles which lay ahead for me and this new journey.

i get sad seeing other young couples together and a young dad who's so into being a great dad. i get angry thinking about my baby's daddy spending money on drugs when i need things for my child. i get lonely when i see pregnant ladies on tv who's man is there when the water breaks and takes them to the hospital...but in the end i know deep down that leaving him was the single greatest thing i could ever of done for my wee one and myself.

i guess i worry - like all mom's (single or not) how to make ends meet when the time comes. how do you get child support out of a junkie? if he ends up in jail (which is a huge possibility) how can he help support my child? he's a status indian - how can my child get status when the father is too high to understand he's a father come december.....these are all things that keep me up at night.

and its not all about financials - I'm not that girl!

i know it will all work out in the end. sure there might be bumps along the way but being the best mom in this world is the one thing keeping me going. it will be all worth it when i can look into the little face of my baby and be blessed with such a great gift.

not that I'm a religious person, but my aunt told me that god doesn't make mistakes - that i became pregnant at the absolute perfect time with the prefect child. and for some reason i found comfort in her words.

anyways. thanks for letting me share my story. if anyone knows much about single parent support - I'm all ears!

Shout out from a new member

sandi82 — Thu, 13 Sep 2007 20:32:07 GMT

Hi, My name is Sandi and as I mentioned I'm a new member. Just wanted to give you all a shout out to say Hey!

I am a 25yr old single mom in Oakville Ontario. I have 2 kids- Keira 4yrs, and Nicholas 2yrs, who's birthdays are on the 23 and 24 of September. I say single by the way, because my boyfriend does not live with me and isn't involved with my kids.

I have been separated (6wks away from divorce now) for 2 years this January. My ex, who is also the kids' Dad, pays child support on and off, mostly off, and I keep putting off going to FRO because part of me keeps saying "He's trying". He takes them over nights every other weekend and usually 2 days during the week. I think it's more like whenever he feels like it, but who am I to say he can't see his kids especially when they're asking for him.

I am from a family of 5 kids myself, and honest to god, I don't know how my mother did it and is still sane. A day doesn't go by when I don't feel completely scatterbrained, when I don't loose my temper or patience, when I don't forget something and end up late for literally everything. I have trouble remembering to feed myself let alone get my kids to eat everything they're suppose to and when they do put up a stink I have no idea what to do. People keep telling me I'm a great mom, but somedays I really don't know how/where they see it. But I try to keep my head up.

They're great kids. They're so smart and so outgoing and ecstatic about life and all its little wonders. I try to cherish every moment because as I keep being told, they're only this age once, but everyday life seems soo difficult to me, I just end up overwhelmed. My family is a couple hours away from me and I know they'd love to help, but they have their own lives to live too.

Tonight as you might have noticed is one of those nights. My kids are finally in bed so I'm going to try and relax with a movie or something. Anyway, sorry if the intro became a vent session but I guess I needed to get it out.

I hope I can get to know and make friends among the members, and help you as much as I am able, while maybe some of your topics will help me.

Even if only one person reads this, thanks for listening.

Sandi

Favorite movie

Danicasmum — Tue, 23 Jan 2007 17:19:39 GMT

Ok. I guess this may help us get to know one another and bring people out of the woodwork. Everyone has a favorite movie....

Mine is Dirty Dancing. Nobody puts Baby in a corner.

Lump in my breast

Sonia5 — Tue, 26 Sep 2006 10:29:41 GMT

Did anyone ever had a lump in their breast while breastfeeding?

Yesterday I discovered one and I panic.I went straight to a walk-in clinic.The doctor told me it's not unusual to see that in breastfeeding women.But he could see that I was very worried so he told me to take an appointment with my doctor and he also gave me a mammography prescription to go do.

This morning,I find that my lump as diminish.I already have an appointment to see my doctor for tomorrow.

I forgot to tell the doctor that it's been 2 days that I stop breastfeeding DD at night,do you think it as in impact with the lump???

The New Girl

mommieof5 — Thu, 31 May 2007 07:30:21 GMT

Hi everyone! My name is Lisa and I'm from just south of Ottawa.I belong to the forum for October Mommies on Babyfit.com but this is my first visit here. We are expecting our 5th baby in October ( Halloween to be exact!) and it would be nice to chat with other Canadian moms.

i'm new from BC

scraphappen — Fri, 25 May 2007 00:14:23 GMT

Hello I am new to this forum. I have been looking for a place to kind of complain about mother hood. Don't get me wrong. I love it, i'm just in a bad place right now. I'm PAC president. I should have never taken it on. I took it because no one else would. I have given notice for next year. Seems no one is stepping up to the plate. I find it is very time consuming and stressful at times. No matter what I can't make everyone happy and I find that disapointing. Doesn't help there is a past mother( her son graduated last year) is there and keeps medeling. Try telling her to but out, but hasn't happened. Sorry see, i'm venting already and all I wanted to do was introduce myselfSorry.

I have 2 daughters 2 1/2 and 9 years old. I love them to death. Seems lately I never have enough time to just hang out with them. I stay at home, hence the time to take on the PAC. I love to scrapbook but I raraely do it anymore. Hard with a toddler around. trying to make more time for that lately. I hope I find this forum full of fun and helpful people.

Do you have more than 2 children?

Tippie — Tue, 15 May 2007 22:22:48 GMT

Hi mom's. I was just wondering if there are many moms out there who have more than 2 children. What are the age difference? Is it more difficult when you get to #3 and up? How do you manage? Do you stay home?

Having a thrid child?

Tippie — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 15:05:16 GMT

So the time has come once again, time to think about putting another "bun in the oven" and I wonder - "What is it really like rasing a family of 3 chilredn?" I have a 3 1/2 girl, a 1 1/2 boy and now I feel like I want our family to grow more (my husband is from a family of 9 so more means more fun for him).

So I am a bit concerend and worried about have the "middle child syndrom" thing happening if I only have one more.

Fill me in ladies - what is it really like, and if you could change the # of children would you?

Back to work, how to cope?

tiddbit — Thu, 17 Aug 2006 00:50:14 GMT

Hello Ladies,

I don't know if I put this in the right section or not. But I'm hopeing to get some feedback.

I just recently started back to work, and I thought it would be alot harder for me. Don't get me wrong the first week or two was difficult. But I think what is making it so hard is my son. He has been a happy go lucky baby from day one. Learned to amuse himself quickly. And when you wanted to hold him, he would push away because he wanted down to play.

Now he is whiny, and wants to be held almost all of the time. And I want to hold him, but I feel bad saying no to himbecause I'm not always home.I don't know if he is just going through a phase or if it's because I'm not around as much and my sister is watching him. He was starting to get a little aggressive too. Hitting alot, but we have got that under control. So I guess my question is, can anyone suggest anything to make this transition easier on him. I would love to stay home 24/7 but that is just not an option.

Hope someone can help.

Tiddbit

I'm a new member

mrsbjr — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 12:02:41 GMT

My name is Judy and I live in Aurora Ontario. I am pregnant with our first child, a son, named Charles (Charlie) Arthur. He is due on June 14th. I'm looking forward to meeting other moms.

My family is walking for Easter Seals on May 27th, if you would like to sponsor us please go to either and search for Judy Brunton:

https://secure.e2rm.com/registrant/SponsorSearch.aspx?EventID=8370&LangPref=en-CA

or

https://secure.e2rm.com/registrant/personalPage.aspx?EventID=8370&LangPref=en-CA&RegistrationID=269321

Who here has belly fat...

cherylmomof2 — Tue, 13 Feb 2007 16:43:59 GMT

I am angry with myself. My kids are 3 and 1 1/2....I'm ashamed to say that I've been using them as an excuse. I have belly fat...and I HATE how I look. I'm 5'7" tall, and I weigh 155-160 lbs. While that is not overweight (I'm around a size 12, sometimes a 10), I feel that it is slightly unhealthy because I have a smaller frame. My husband would never say I have a flabby tummy, and thats great. But I know its there. I am sick and tired of holding my gut in around my thin friends. I am sick and tired of having to try on 5 different shirts to find one that will make me look the best. I've decided I am going to get rid of it. I've found some exercises that I'm hoping will help me tone up. Bathing suit season is closer than you think, I'm going to look hot. I am going to be confident.

Who wants to join me and make our husbands drool this summer? But most of all, who wants to wow themselves?

What I'm suggesting is not a diet, there will be no weigh in's, just good old fashioned sister-like support.

Newbie

fcgilbert2001 — Wed, 21 Mar 2007 10:31:50 GMT

Hello everyone,

Just wanted to introduce "myself", as I have just found out about this site. I hope I am in the right forum topic. I am a stay-at-home Mom to my 5yr old daughter Mélyna and we live in St-Hubert, Québec (15 minutes from Montreal). I am looking forward to exploring ParentsCanada.com.

Results from the Opinion Poll

Moderator — Tue, 20 Mar 2007 09:21:52 GMT

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New Content Just for Mom

Moderator — Sat, 17 Mar 2007 12:49:51 GMT

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Check out the Well-being section specifically for articles about your well-being. We've created this area for articles just for your health and happiness content.

How do you love your kids?

rdtm — Sun, 11 Jun 2006 15:35:54 GMT

My husband would like to have another child as he himself has a sister and couldn't imagine life without a sibling.

My question is as a mother or father of more than one child, how do you love your kids? As each child comes into the family do you split your love in half and share between the them? Or do you just grow to love the new child just as much? This may be a hard question to answer but do you love one child more than another?

If your older child inflicts pain or harm against your youngest, both of whom you love dearly...what kind of emotions do you get from this? The other day someone accidentally threw a baseball in the direction of my daughter sitting oblivious in her carseat and I just about flipped (thankfully it didn't hit her but it was damn close!)...I am wondering how that would have made me feel had that been an older brother or sister?

Being an only child I am curious as to how the love process works when you start adding other children as this is all new territory for me. I love my daughter so much and worry about how adding another child will change my love for her?

I am sure this seems a silly question to most, but I just need to know how it works.

Thanks for your honesty...

Postpartum Depression

tiddbit — Thu, 14 Dec 2006 14:15:35 GMT

Hi everyone,

It has been brought to my attention by a friend. That I may be suffering from Postpartum depression. Has anyone on here gone through it? And how do you know for sure?

My other question my baby is 15 months.Is it still considered Postpartum depression? But my hubby feels I have been different for quit a few months. Maybe I am just realizing it now.Any information that anyone can give would be greatly appreciated.Thanks

Tiddbit

New here...sort of

cherylmomof2 — Sun, 21 Jan 2007 11:28:08 GMT

Hi Mom's & Dad's

I'm Cheryl. I live in Northern Ontario with my husband (Nick) of 2 1/2 years. We have a daughter named Megan who will be 3 in April. We also have a son named Alex who is 17 months old.

I was without a computer...or the time to come here regularily, and now that I am able to my username was invalid...but thats ok.

I hope to share and learn with you all.

Take care!

ontario mat leave extended?

wiccanmomma — Thu, 04 Jan 2007 15:17:46 GMT

i just heard a rumour that as of Jan. 1, 2007, maternity benefits in Ontario will be extended.

Has anyone else heard this or know of anything?

I need a REAL answer quickly, as I am negotiating with my boss about going back to work in less than a month.

Thanx.

Feeling Isolated

jennitheunissen — Tue, 24 Oct 2006 17:30:33 GMT

I was just wondering if anyone else is feeling islolated.

I have gone from working 50hrs a week to staying at home with my newborn. Don't get me wrong I love being at home with him but how do stop feeling this way?

My husband works alot right now and when he's home it's not like he has the energy to go and do anything, and really what are we going to do on one income.

Another problem I don't drive so I think that makes it worse. I guess I'm just lonely right now and maybe I need time to adjust.

Any helpful ideas would help

Thanks

BF and period

GhadaT — Tue, 28 Nov 2006 00:15:47 GMT

I hope I put this post in a suitable place.

My son is 7 months old and I haven't had my period since he was born, I'm still nursing him but less than before, because I give him solid food. I was wondering if that has happened to anyone else.

periods

saulino — Sun, 11 Jun 2006 16:07:29 GMT

Hi Girls

Well i started my first period since giving birth on May 13th i used to get it every 4 weeks on the dot since i was on the pill.

So my question is when should i expect my next one ., its been 29 days what is the length of time it should accure? 28-35 days?

Thanks im totally lost when it comes to this stuff.

Katrina xx

For Moms of non BFing c-section babies

yummiemummie — Thu, 12 Oct 2006 23:39:27 GMT

Just out of curiosity...

How long after you had your baby did you get your period back????

I am 6 weeks PP and am not BFing and still haven't gotten my period...

How normal is this??

With my first c-section I BF so I didn't get it for months.

PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

The ultimate betrayl!!

Gladue — Tue, 10 Oct 2006 17:48:19 GMT

I am a mother of three and over the Thanksgiving holiday I found out some very disturbing news. My best friend is pregnant and I knew that and she is due on my birthday which is October 17. This was fine but my boyfriend(who is also the father of my three children) and I had some problems early in the year. So my best friend who is also my cousin told me over the weekend that she is having my boyfriends baby. They had slept together sometime in January (between the second week and the end of the month) and I am having a very hard time trying to cope with this. I was wondering if anyone could tell me if the dates add up right. Some advice on how to handle this and what I should do would be very welcome.

Relationship stress

icegirl — Sun, 17 Sep 2006 11:06:16 GMT

Hello Ladies! I know this isn't something many people like to talk about but I need to write just to share. Lately DH and I have been having relationship stress due to his short temper and lack of understanding. I am 20 weeks along with our first child and we were both so excited at first! It seems now if I am having somekind of pregnancy pain....in my back, sore muscles or indigestion, he comes up with something wrong with him instead of listening to me. We were getting ready for a wedding yesterday and he began to get upset with the time we had left ourselves to prepare. He began blaming me for running late and when he needed my help I did not want to be in the same room while he was yelling! He has been trying a new medication to calm him down and the doctor said this may take 2-3 weeks to notice a change. Anyhow, on our way to the wedding I felt pressure and pain in my abdomen....we pulled the car over so I could stretch and the pain subsided. I'm worried the stress of our relationship will take a toll on our unborn baby? Does anyone know or have heard of effects of stress on pregnancy?

Any advice is appreciated....I have been coping but worried how my DH will cope once the baby is here....Thanks in advance!

Icegirl - Due Feb.3/07

Tylenol dosing

tallgirl — Tue, 08 Aug 2006 17:03:41 GMT

Okay, so if the dosing for acetaminophen (i.e. Tylenol) is 15 mg per 1 kg for babies,...is it the same for adults? Does anyone know?

I ask because I've always found that OTC drugs tend not to work that well for me (or at all) and I've always wondered if it's because I'm "larger than average".

I did a little math and if the dosing is the same for all ages and weights, then one tablet of extra strength Tylenol (500 mg per tablet) would be appropriate for a 73 pound person, and two tablets would be for a 146 pound person. But maybe for adults the dosage isn't supposed to be by weight?

I know that drug companies don't want people to overdose and sue them, but on the other hand, if I need pain medicine, I as a consumer want something that actually has the desired effect on me.

I don't normally require medicine, so it isn't on my mind a lot, but a couple of weeks ago I had abdominal surgery (gall bladder removal), and was pretty tender for a few days. I did take Tylenol, but felt that it really wasn't doing anything for me. I felt the same whether I took it or not.

I'm going to try to remember to ask my family doctor about this when I see him in a couple of weeks, but I was wondering if anyone out there either has medical training and knows this, or has asked their own doctor the same question. Or maybe if you're also "larger than average", have you found that most OTC medicines don't work that well for you either? I'm just wondering!

A posting for Donns

rdtm — Mon, 29 May 2006 13:15:52 GMT

I am just wondering where in northern BC you are located. I live in Williams Lake, I have only ever seen people on here from Vancouver!

Do you live in the boonies like I do?

Gall Bladder Attacks

Steffanee — Thu, 13 Jul 2006 14:29:14 GMT

Hi everyone, Just wondering if anyone out there has suffered a gall bladder attack and what is was like for you, ie symptoms etc.

Any words on this would be great.

Thanks

Back pain

Sonia5 — Tue, 04 Apr 2006 14:33:30 GMT

Hi,

Did anyone still have back pain after delivery?

I had terrible back pain when I was pregnant.

After delivery(c-section),my back pain is still very painful.It's mostly on my left side in my lower back,my bottom and sometimes my leg back and front!

I need to go for a massage but it's a tiny bit complicated,since DD doesn't want to take the bottle.

Sonia

Pills and periods

rzanabria — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 17:59:52 GMT

Four weeks ago I started taking MICRONOR pills, as means for contraception. My doctor recommended me these ones specifically because I am breastfeeding my little one (2 months old).

But on the pharmacy they told me that I should be having my period at the end of the third week after starting the package. The same thing says in the package. But now I have finished the fourth week, started the new package and nothing have happened. Does somebody have the same? I am not sure if because I am breastfeeding my period is not regular yet, even while taking the pills.

Some help?

Pumping troubles

katesmom — Sat, 27 May 2006 22:29:45 GMT

I need some advice on pumping breastmilk. Kate is now 11 months old, and she is still bf'ing morning and night. This morning, she and DH went away for the first time together, and they will be out-of-town for 4 days. I want to pump in the meantime to ensure that I will be able to continue bf'ing. However, I could only get 1 oz out tonight, after 2 hours and lots of tries. The milk came out in slow drops, and eventually I just couldn't get any more.

I also tried pumping when Kate was born, and it was so slow that I couldn't be bothered. When Kate was born I was using the super-duper pharmacy rental pump, and I now have two different small electric pumps.

new comer

szekieleung — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 10:43:29 GMT

where should I start

Question

saulino — Thu, 22 Jun 2006 13:38:35 GMT

As some of you know i have gotten one period since having Kiara and i still havent gotten my next one .

Anyways the past baout two weeks its been hurting to have sex and hace been having cramping not everyday but every few days , when i do get them they are very uncomfortable and have also been very bloated.

Anyone know what this could be thanks

Katrina

Breatsfeeding, TTC

saulino — Thu, 11 May 2006 03:10:15 GMT

Well heres my story, i feel like im pregnant but i am breastfeeding strictly and have not had my period since having Kiara . I feel nausious, have cramps and very tired and have broken out on my face. i also feel light headed at times. I phoned the 24 hour nurse line and she kept asking if i was preg cuz at this time i phoned to see what could be wrong with me as i never had any of this with Kiara i knew cuz i missed my period which obviously wont help me now.

I also will let you know that i had bled a little after having sex last week i had gotten up about half hour later and had blood when i wiped and when i went back later it was on my panti liner just a little though and stopped after about an hour.?

This might have nothing to do with my other symptoms though.

Right now i am just really confused as i took a test and it was neg , but with Kiara i took a test at the clinic and it was neg but went and got a blood test which came positive then i came home and did a clear blue and it showed positive as well.

Anyways my question is has any of you breastfed and got preg? and if so how did you know and did you ever get a neg when you were positive?

Sorry for so much questions i just dont know what to think and if im not preg im gonna go to the doc and see what is wrong with me.

Thank you in advance for yoru replies.

xxx Katrina