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Forget Terrible Two's...It's Terrible Three's!!!!!!!

amazon74 — Wed, 05 Apr 2006 16:11:49 GMT

Anyone else have a VERY headstrong three year old???

staring

unclmart — Sat, 26 Apr 2008 07:26:01 GMT

Hi I am curious? I have a 9 month old, boy, he likes to lay on his back an stare at object.
some times he sleep after he stares,some times he does not.

Is this normal?

Conduct of Life Book for kids 6-10 years old

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gas

charlize — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 19:09:53 GMT

I have a child she is 4 months...her stool is liquidy changes color back and forth between mustard and army green. She has really bad gas cramps...toots alot...restless sleeping...

I have been trying new formula... using enfamil changed 4 types ...wondering if I should go to soy based...any ideas??

What do you do in the middle of a bad tantrum

violet1amythest — Thu, 10 Jan 2008 15:21:39 GMT

Carter is almost 2 and hit the terrible two's about 6 months ago. He started having temper tantrums like any other kids but has evolved into a violent terror that won't calm down for at least 10 min. With my first boy it wasn't any thing like this. I could put him in his room and he'd settle down after a few min and a few tears. My 2 yr old will trash his room, bang his head on anything he can reach, including me, leaving bruises when he hits. Slapping, biting, throwing toys, books or what ever happens to be within close reach. He has even tore apart the new wooden train track set that Santa brought which had been glued so it wouldn't fall apart easily.

When he is having a mild meltdown I can usually calm him down by distraction, giving him another option or simply walking away. However when he is beyond the voice of reason I just don't know what to do with him. After it's all done we have a little talk about how to act and what to do but a 2 yr old doesn't remember this in the middle of it. I have restrained him myself to stop hitting and have been able to calm him enough to talk him down. But that can take 5 min or longer of screaming/hitting/throwing things.

What do you do when your kids has a serious meltdown?

Preschoolers and bullying

onlyone — Thu, 22 Mar 2007 22:11:28 GMT

I am new here and glad to join all of you on this board. I have been running a daycare in my home for the past 2 1/2 yrs. My daughter who is now 3 1/2yrs has grown with the children in my daycare, they are all around the same age. I must add that my daughter has some developmental delays, mainly with her speech. All was fine with her and the other children until about a month ago when I noticed two of the other kids always sticking together and picking on my daughter. They won't let her join in their play(they tell her to go away), steal toys from her, laugh at her and tease her sometimes. I am a licensed educator and know how to deal with situations like this. I don't over protect her but correct the kids when they do this by telling them that at daycare everyone is friends and that we must be nice with eachother, that teasing and making one another cry is not a nice way to play. I've started to even read books to them about how to be nice to each other/bullying. I also try to encourage group play as much as possible. But this is breaking my heart to see her upset or cry when this happens, this is still my child. Would anyone have any other tips or ideas that could help me deal with this? I would greatly appreciate it.

Temper Tantrums

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3yr old running away when it's time to brush teeth/hair/get dressed

springbaby — Wed, 27 Sep 2006 16:58:58 GMT

It used to be cute when she ran away-not anymore-I'm pregnant and can't keep up with her- when she needs her teeth brushed, or needs to get dressed she just turns and walks away, when I ask again, or try to pick her up-there is plenty of resistance, and in the end-she's crying, and I am trying to force a toothbrush in.

How do you handle the resistance? How do you cope? I don't want her to have negative reinforcement.

thanks,
angela

Blowing Food!!

Lyndze — Fri, 19 Jan 2007 15:36:12 GMT

I am having some issues with feeding time and I am not sure what actions I should take to 'punish' her. It seems every time I try to feed my nine month old daughter she 'blows' the food back. She used to wait until she had a nice big mouthful before doing it, but now when she sees the spoon coming she starts blowing. I have tried firmly saying 'no' but she just seems to think I'm playing with her. I have also tried 'ignoring' her for a few minutes when she does it so she doesn't think it's a game as well I have tried having a distaction such as one of her toys, but it's not working so far, and I'm not too sure how I can get her to stop. Any suggestions??

Thanks!

crying over everything

michelle284 — Fri, 27 Oct 2006 21:19:44 GMT

My 4 year old twin daughters cry about everything. Whenever they don't get their own way about absolutley anything, they cry. It is a very annoying cry. They have tears and cry VERY loudly. I don't have sympathy for them like I do if they are hurt, because this cry is different from a hurt cry. It is sort of a cry/scream. I try telling them I can't talk with them until they can talk with big girl voices, but they cry more and harder until I eventually lose my patience. Does anyone have some advice?

sep. anxiety...intense crying when mom leaves

springbaby — Fri, 06 Oct 2006 15:57:20 GMT

My three year old has terrible sep. anxiety, so much that I can't even leave her at a half hour dance class because the parents aren't allowed to be in the same room, and she feels like she needs me there. She cries hard, even runs away from the instructor when she comes near her. She even says 'I don't like her'

I don't know if I should accept her feelings, and let it go, and take her home, or do I leave her there upset?

any ideas, or suggestions.

Separation Anxiety

foxymama3 — Wed, 14 Jun 2006 11:00:05 GMT

My six year old first grader is going through this phase (i hope it's a phase). For the last two weeks he has become emotional towards going to school, and leaving me. He has always loved school. His Teacher is amazing, and He is one of her best behaved and well liked students. He has lost motivation to do his work in class. He's last report card was covered with A's and B's. He cries in class for little embarrassments. And he claims he misses me and wants to go home. The first and only time I did pick him up, he changed his mind after we left the school. I don't want him to become dependant on me whenever things get tough, but also I want him to understand that I will be there when he just can't take anymore. I am a stay at home Mom, I have a four year old son who will start school in the fall. And my daughter who is almost five months old. He has never showed jealousy towards my daughter. My attention towards him has changed a little since she was born. I breastfeed so It's not like I can involve him in helping to feed her. I would love to spend some one on one time with him. Plus there are times when he is home and invited to his cousins or grandparents, he almost always jumps out the door. He even comes to me in the middle of the night and tells me he misses me too much...any advice will be greatly appreciated.

Rachelle...Mom of Anah-Liese, Aidan and Cameron.

"Hurt the puppy"

tallgirl — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 00:26:45 GMT

My 26 month old daughter has a new favourite phrase. All day long, every day for a couple of weeks now, she's been spouting off, "Hurt the puppy, hurt the mommy, hurt the daddy, hurt the Tyson (her 5 month old brother), even hurt the Peyton (herself)" She actually DOES hurt the puppy sometimes. We've told her not to pull his hair/tail, not to hit him. We tell her to touch nice when she says her phrase. We've put her in her room for time-outs when she's mean to anyone. We've even spanked her sometimes for being mean (I know there are various views on spanking.) She isn't mean to him all the time, she's actually nice to him a lot of the time. But she's mean often enough that he doesn't trust her. The puppy is only 3 months old, and we've had him about 6 weeks. He's kennelled most of the day because I simply can't protect either him nor my daughter from one another. She also occasionally does slap me or her dad, but she never actually hurts her little brother on purpose. We thought that she desperately loved dogs, by her reaction to any live dog or picture of a dog before we adopted our puppy. I don't know if we are being too lenient or too strict or not consistent enough (although it really feels like we're being consistent...), or if it's just a phase she'll grow out of. But in the meantime, I'm afraid that our dog is going to learn to be mean, and I don't want that to happen.

Anyone have any suggestions to curb this behaviour?