 Posted 1/10/2008 3:21:39 PM
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| Carter is almost 2 and hit the terrible two's about 6 months ago. He started having temper tantrums like any other kids but has evolved into a violent terror that won't calm down for at least 10 min. With my first boy it wasn't any thing like this. I could put him in his room and he'd settle down after a few min and a few tears. My 2 yr old will trash his room, bang his head on anything he can reach, including me, leaving bruises when he hits. Slapping, biting, throwing toys, books or what ever happens to be within close reach. He has even tore apart the new wooden train track set that Santa brought which had been glued so it wouldn't fall apart easily. When he is having a mild meltdown I can usually calm him down by distraction, giving him another option or simply walking away. However when he is beyond the voice of reason I just don't know what to do with him. After it's all done we have a little talk about how to act and what to do but a 2 yr old doesn't remember this in the middle of it. I have restrained him myself to stop hitting and have been able to calm him enough to talk him down. But that can take 5 min or longer of screaming/hitting/throwing things. What do you do when your kids has a serious meltdown?
Mom of Cole (age 4) and Carter (age 2) www.scotiapuzzles.com
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Posted 1/11/2008 9:54:00 AM
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Well...I can sympathize. My son, who is 2 and 4 months....he will throw himself on the ground and just scream to the point of gagging ang hypervenalating. (sorry, I can't spell this morning  ) I've found the best thing is to just ignore him as best I can. He needs to finish is tantrum, the more I try to help, the more he screams. Its just better to let him go through his fit and when its over he's back to his smiling self.
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Posted 1/27/2008 10:34:00 PM
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| This can be a really hard time, physically and emotionally. It is hard to do but touch love it really needed here. What he is wanting is attention, it really doesn't matter if it is negative or positive from you, but just plain attention. What is needed is time out, or a cool down spot, whatever you want to call it. Start by showing him where it is when he is in a good mood and tell him what it is for - for when he misbehaves. Then when something happens he has to sit there for the number of mintutes that matches his age. He will get up, but then you just pick him up and put him back on the spot. He will get up, he will get mad, and it will take awhile. It will be frustrating and you will want to give up, but trust me, it will work and he will learn. It may take more than once on the spot for them to get teh idea, but they need boundaries and discipline. It had worked for me with 2 children (now 4 and 2) and I know it can work for others. Don't give up when it takes and hour for him to sit there for the 2 minutes the first time, he will learn. Just remember, if this doesn't stop now, and he doesn't learn what is a good way to deal with emotions now, when he gets older things will just get more violent and harder to deal with. Children learn very early with how to deal with emtions and what is a good way and bad way. If they don't know by the age of 5 it is going to be a very rough time in school, with others friends, and especially with others in authority.
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