 Posted 10/6/2006 3:57:20 PM
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My three year old has terrible sep. anxiety, so much that I can't even leave her at a half hour dance class because the parents aren't allowed to be in the same room, and she feels like she needs me there. She cries hard, even runs away from the instructor when she comes near her. She even says 'I don't like her'
I don't know if I should accept her feelings, and let it go, and take her home, or do I leave her there upset?
any ideas, or suggestions.
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Posted 10/27/2006 2:03:29 PM
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| As hard as is it, sometimes it's best to just leave. You should explain to your child what is going to happen before hand when she's not upset. Tell her Mommy's going to take you to dance class and I'll be back as soon as the fun is over, or something to that effect. And make sure you're there as soon as it's over. If you drop her off and she cried and you go and get her, it'll only show her that crying for Mommy works. Now, if the dance instructor is not willing to co-operate with this, it might make it more difficult. If that's the case, maybe try dropping her off at a friend's place or somewhere else just to get her use to the idea that you may leave her for awhile but that you will be back to get her. My 3rd child just started daycare (he's 3) and I thought for sure I'd have to same problem, as Cody is a real Mommies' boy! But for the week leading up to daycare I told him about all the fun stuff he'd get to do etc., and that Daddy would be picking him up as soon as the fun was over! He was perfect, no tears the 1st day but I had to stick around 1/2 hour! 2nd day was perfect, kissed me bye and ran off!! Sorry I'm rambling! They key is just to be consistent and not to give in to the tears!! Those tears are such powerful tools!! Good luck!
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Posted 10/27/2006 3:05:56 PM
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| Good advice queen mommy angela!! I agree - once they learn tears are tools - they can be quite manipulative!!
Roxanne
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Posted 12/13/2006 7:43:56 PM
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| I tend to agree with the above. As hard as that is to walk away from when your child is crying for you. Has your DD gotten any better with seperation anxiety?
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Mom to DD (3 years) and DS (10 months)
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